Is an emotional affair as bad as having a physical affair? I am just asking for a “friend”.
It’s for me.
Oh God, of course, here it is. The big one has landed. There are not enough Scarlet Fizzes in the world to soothe this ill. The freaking mother lode…so here goes:
In short- YES! Yes, and yes. Now, I am not saying your partner is going to feel the same way as I do, but my opinion is YES! Holy Mother of God, yes…!
Now here’s why: I have found, and it is cliché, I know, that men typically are more concerned if there is a physical betrayal vs. an emotional one, but that could be because they are pea brained and related to Neanderthals. And women are more bereft when it comes to the strong emotional connection that can be formed between another woman and her man. And I buy that lock, stock and barrel. Picture it: he screws a whore, it’s over, it’s done, there is nothing left of her he wants to stick in or around for. Pretty raw, but it’s the truth. If he cares for another woman, her well-being, her happiness and craves her love, passion and desire you are up SHIT CREEK WITHOUT A PADDLE. There’s no real getting out of that betrayal because you will always wonder what the hell he’s thinking about even if he has stayed. Am I right? Hell to the yes, I’m right. I mean, how many oxygen serieses do you need to watch to get that through your head? How many Lifetime original movies does Markie Post have to star in for you to figure this crap out?
An emotional affair is far worse than a physical one, because there are deep emotional connections and ties. There’s intimacy that just having sex does not provide. There’s the desire for more than a physical relationship- you want the whole enchilada, mi amiga. Take it from me, I know from experience. It’s far worse.
If I were you, I’d take stock in my current relationship and see if it’s worth saving. If not, get out. And do it fast…. before your Scarlet loses its Fizz.
Dear Beat Babe,
My Mother has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. She is living in “La-La Land,” and has not been proactive with her insurance, looking for treatment, or anything, really. She is literally in denial and I am at the end of my rope. My brother and I are going to have to pay for all of this if she doesn’t get it together and we do not have the money. I am going to strangle her myself if she doesn’t get this shit handled. I love her, but MY GOD.
Help! Going to be Broke Soon
Oy!! She’s meshuggana for sure. Glass of Manischewitz wine, right now!
I can only imagine how frustrated you must be at this moment. It’s such a struggle to watch someone not doing everything in their power to take care of themselves. Especially when they’ve been diagnosed with something as serious as breast cancer. You must be beside yourself. I get it, I really do. Here’s the problem: it’s not your problem, or life. It’s your mom’s problem and life. How freaking frustrating is that?
Let’s dig a little. Why on earth do you think she is neglecting to do the necessary bullshit things in order to get the help she really needs? I once had an aunt that was super-duper religious. Like to the point of praying for parking spaces at the grocery store. And when one opened up quickly…”PRAISE THE LORD!” was the response. My aunt said that she didn’t need insurance because God Almighty was going to take care of her. She was never going to get sick, until she did and then she died. With a shit load of debt, I might add. Ari! Fill up my Manischewitz, or I will feed you to the Goyim.
You have to wrap your head around the fact that everyone deals with their health differently. This is your mother’s choice to make. You need to let go. You can make calls, get appointments, verify the insurance she has or see if you can make a change with her coverage on her behalf IF she gives you then green light. That’s really the only way. I would express to her the great fear this is instilling in your family and that she can get well quickly if she would let you help. But, she may be as stubborn as my poor, naïve aunt, RIP. You cannot force a grown, sane (but that’s questionable, btw) woman to change her ways if she doesn’t want to. She’s being a major asshole for putting your family through this. (Sorry, it’s the wine talking.)