I have been reading and sporadically using the Monthly Manifestation Manual (written by the amazing School of Life Design, set to be interviewed next month). It prods you to think of your days in different ways (like there’s a category for “things not to give a fuck about,” for example), and each page has a geometric layout that appeals to my brain (people who know me know I have a thing for triangles).
Anyhoo, yesterday’s prodding was about the success of others. It read:
“Success of another: Do you ever find yourself feeling jealous or resentful of others’ success? The mind has a tendency to think ‘But why don’t I have that?!’ When we release the judgment of the mind, however, we realize that the success of others is a reflection of our own alignment with source.”
It then asked me to 1) Write the name of someone who has experienced success and 2) Write their success story.
The prod worked. I got to thinking….who do I know that I see as “successful”? Well, that depends on your definition of success, doesn’t it? And more questions popped up: how do I deal with my view of those I see as “successful”? And what in the world is this “reflection of my own alignment with source” anyway? Could that be related to the way I travel on my own personal journey?
As I started to write down who I defined as successful, I noticed that it wasn’t so much about who was raking in the cash, but about who was recognized in their chosen field and was continuing to work and make a name in said field. Granted- I chose to think mainly of people I know. There are successful people I admire and might look to as a I grow and work, but mainly I was thinking of my own friends, acquaintances, and industry peers.
I began to notice that of all eight that I listed, they all had one thing in common (with one exception): they had all worked for years at whatever it was they were doing. I also noticed that when I looked at the list, it brought up within me exactly the issue the book suggested: a lot of “Why don’t I have that?”
So where does that put us on “THE JOURNEY”? (Ya know, the big one… the big idea of it in life.) It can leave us looking around and comparing and wanting if we aren’t careful. Whenever I feel that twinge of jealousy, that little voice of want within, I know that it is an indicator of what I need to work toward. And generally speaking, that’s exactly how I am defining success: as something that is worked at over years and years, toiled over, and passionately pursued as a journey, not as an end.
Those people don’t see what they do as an end. They see it as life. They see it as living, as an integral part of their path. They aren’t checking a box. They are living as they have to live.
The journey just is, and success = movement, and living as we feel compelled. It equals work and letting that, itself, be the end.
So now, I’ll prod you. Ask these questions to yourself and see where your answers lead in relation to your journey.
- Who do I see as successful? List 8 people.
- What makes each of them successful to me?
- Where is there a common thread within my answers? How am I truly defining success?
Take a hard look at how you define success. Maybe you get stymied day-to-day by someone else having a zillion followers, but when you answer these, you don’t think of that at all (I know I didn’t). The real answer is likely about something else altogether: the work, and the life in progress.
Take what you have discerned in your answers and think about applying this in your own journey, and what that can mean as you look at your own success. Get practical about what you need to be doing work-wise and how you need to feel in the moment in order to make success your own reality, both in this step and in the next. And let us know what you’ve learned!