My best girlfriend from childhood has asked me to go on a trip with her for her 45th birthday. My husband has told me that he doesn’t think it’s a good idea because he’s working and it will be difficult for him to “hold down the fort” for the long weekend. I am so pissed off. I never ask to go anywhere. How do I convince him to let me go?
Girls Gone Wild
Ahem…first of all, you need a large whiskey on the rocks because I am about to give you a real taste of truth. I mean no disrespect, but if you need to convince your husband to “let you go” somewhere we are dealing with bigger issues than you realize. I think I need some liquid courage this time.
So, I don’t know if it’s the way you phrased your question, and maybe it was a misstep, but needing “permission” from your husband to go somewhere sounds silly. You are a grown woman. You can make your own decisions. You may decide not to do something or go somewhere because you feel it’s not the right thing to do, but I don’t think you need to “convince” your hubby to let you go. Another big strong sting-y swig. Feel that burn!
Here’s my 2 cents: Sounds like a great time with one of your very best friends. I say go. Life is too short and long lasting friendships are few and far between. Go and enjoy yourself and celebrate your friend. I am sure that your hubby is more than capable of handling everything. He is a grown man, right? Make it easy for him (like maybe book one sitter for a period of time) and get the details taken care, of if that makes you feel better. Meals, kids activities, and rides. Book the dog with a friend or kennel. Jesus, it’s all ok. Another sip. And can you imagine if they did that for us when they split town? LOL!!!! A girl can dream!
Friend, remember: it’s always better to ask for forgiveness than permission!
The Beat Babe takes a shot on HOLIDAY EATING COMMENTS:
Sometimes, friends- or particularly, family members- make the poor choice of making snarky remarks about or nitpicking what we eat, whether it’s on the refraining side or the indulging side. While we would never dream of telling them what they should or should not eat, others can invariably do so, especially around the holidays.
When this happens, grab your carb-free paleo-friendly vodka over ice or, perhaps, your Bailey’s rocks, and enjoy it. No one ever has the right to single you out about your personal food choices and make remarks. If it occurs, though, I think it’s best to confront it straight on. Tell them that you’re sick and tired of the comments. You don’t need their peanut-gallery commentary when you decline the mashed potatoes or have seconds on pumpkin pie. Why do they even care? What is the problem? Go ahead, say it like that! It’s ok to ask “Why does it bother you what I eat?” See if there are any honest answers. And then, I would frankly say, I don’t comment on what you should be eating because it’s none of my business. BOOM!
Because what’s a holiday without a little drama, anyway?!
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