We don’t have to wait for peace to suddenly appear in our lives. We have the power to create it ourselves. Here are some ways to access the peace within you, so that you can gracefully move through not only this holiday season, but the rest of your life.
Live in The Moment
One thing I love about having a meditation practice is that it has taught me to be present with whatever is happening in my life. Being present allows us to learn to relax into any situation, and not try to make it end or be any different. We are just present with it, however it feels, in the moment. It takes some practice to reign our minds into the present moment, since it tends to want to dwell in the past or future which feels safer for us, and falls into our habitual patterns. Hence why so many of us feel depressed and/or anxious. When you find yourself not being present, close your eyes and take a few breaths. Use your breath to bring you back to this moment, and do this as many times as you need throughout the day.
Learn to Be Patient
In patience we learn to relax with our anger, our neediness, and our energy. Being patient means we sit quietly enough to be the witness to our agitation and restlessness and to be with those emotions. We are then able to see what stirs us up. When we are not patient we react and assert ourselves. When we find ourselves wanting to strike back, to avenge, to find a quick resolution, or get through something as quickly as possible—we are denying ourselves the needed space to to explore the moment. This is necessary space for us to pause with what is happening, and to not strike back the next time, as our habitual behaviors would have us do.
Be Grateful to Everyone
In order to make peace with other people we must first make peace with ourselves. When we learn to like ourselves, we can compassionately begin to embrace those we dislike. If we can see our own scars, we begin to awaken to the fact that everyone has their own issues to contend with. When we allow ourselves to see ourselves in those we dislike, we begin to see parts of ourselves in them that perhaps before we had been unwilling to see. So with a more open heart, we are grateful to everyone for allowing us the blessing of practicing compassion and acceptance. And recognizing that we can learn from any situation.
The word impermanence means that nothing lasts—including you. Everything that exists must cease to exist at some point. So anytime you feel overwhelmed, stressed out, anxious, angry, chaotic…know that the situation and your feelings about it will end. I love the mantra, “This too shall pass.” It is such a beautiful reminder in trying times that nothing lasts forever, and we can definitely find peace in this lesson.
If you would like to explore these topics further, please join me for a special New Year’s Eve Meditation Class in Austin, Texas! Visit www.randimarks.com; click book, then classes, and reserve your cushion for this upcoming event to start the new year!