I am normally a happy, fairly neutral type of person. ‘Live and let live’ is one of my favorite mottos. But lately, my Facebook feed is causing me to have actual heart palpitations. Like, a real-live physical reaction is happening and I don’t know how or why this is affecting me so much! I’ve gone through a horrible divorce, a nightmare of a custody battle, and parents who have been sick, but I never got as stressed out as I am over the hatred permeating my feed. How can I stay on there and not want to cry myself to sleep every night?
Facebook is the Place Where Your Soul Dies
Oh, my word! I’ll drink to that… in THE BIGGEST WAY! I swear, I have felt the same as you since this whole shit-storm started. I’ve been drinking brandy…yes, BRANDY. You know, like in all of the English novels so that my heart and soul don’t grow cold like all of these crazies out there. Can I offer you one?
I love Facebook for many reasons, one of which is to keep in touch with friends and family from far and wide. Isn’t it nice to see your cousin’s kids who live in Colorado looking cute in their ski gear? How about your college roommate’s pet who loves to swim in the ocean? Shall I go on? One huge gulp of the good stuff.
I get it, Facebook is a connection to the friends and family from all over the globe, but there’s one really weird thing. Many of the people you are “friends” with actually have a totally different ideology than you. Quelle surprise?!
Your childhood friend thinks that Trump is the best thing since sliced bread or your neighbor thinks that the electoral college is bullshit and we should resist. Everyone you thought you knew has a political view that seems very personal but is being projected over the interwebs for everyone to see and argue with.
This fits in nicely with our previous Beat Babe subject regarding technology. Technology can make one become isolated and feel judged. You are your own person, and your opinion is personal. Doesn’t make it right or wrong, or whatever, but unfortunately, people are going to judge constantly. If you can’t cope with the negativity out there, and I don’t blame you, then taking a break from FACEBOOK is a great start.
Take the app off your phone immediately and see how much better you feel and more connected you are to your loved ones. I swear, do this as an experiment and you will be fascinated by the level of productivity and positivity you begin to see.
I am sorry you are feeling so down. Don’t despair! Brandy and deleting friends might help, but unplugging for a good long while is the best!