Usually I’m super pumped for the start of a new year. I am prepared with all my goals. In the past, the new year has prompted me to do things like open a boutique, write an album, start a website, and much more. And as you may well know by now, I adore making lists and so I like to write all of my goals up every year, and then stare at them and think about all the things I can do, and how motivated I am, and make little sub-lists, and blah, blah, blahbeddy blah.
Not this year, however. I was incredibly slow off the mark to even get to writing anything. Let alone eat healthy, reducing my consumption of alcohol, and all the rest of the things that are traditional ‘New Year’ things to do.
The more I thought about these desires and goals and all I want to accomplish, the more I became overwhelmed. The idea of having to manage my health goals AND work AND motherhood AND writing AND music AND RYmagazine AND events AND AND AND AND was just too much! I threw my hands up and immersed myself in the news and political goings-on. Not healthy in the least, but damn entertaining and time consuming. You can lose yourself in that place.
I had to put down the Twitter and step away from the time-waster. I thought a lot about the goals I needed in my life, and what I really wanted to devote my time and energy to. Yet, I still felt overwhelmed. As we decided to make this month about #SolidGoals, I knew I needed to find my own solidity with what I was taking on this year and every day forward.
I realized that I could only handle making decisions for just that day. I couldn’t look toward the fact that I wanted to be healthier and have a book agent by the time I turned 45 in August, and that I needed to do at minimum two more drafts of my book; that is just too big and it overwhelms me. I had an aha! moment right then:
The most solid goal I can make right now is to make the best choices I can for today.
That includes everything from health to writing to attention away from my phone and toward my children. It includes kindness IRL and on social media, it includes action and relaxation, it includes self-care and care of others. It includes promotion and supporting others. And it includes being kind to myself when perhaps I didn’t make every choice I “should” have the day before (i.e. that bag of chips I ate yesterday). Making the best choices I can for today is the only goal I can focus on without feeling overwhelmed.
I am still watching politics, of course (my Twitter feed runs the gamut from silly to #gunsense legislation), but I am working on making solid choices for today that will benefit me just for today. Goal oriented doesn’t have to mean overwhelming. Just make it about today and right now, and that’s as solid as it gets.
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